psychology

Oral Sex Confessions

Oral Sex Confession Ever wonder if you know what you're doing when you give a girl head? Sure she seems to enjoy it, but those tricky women are known for being convincing fakers. To put the insecurities to rest we called up our Debonair Sex Panel to ask a few dirty questions and see what women really want down there. How often do you expect oral sex from your partner? "At least everytime we have sex, so for us, that's like three or four times a week. Just getting head by itself is great too, but once we get into it we usually end up circling the bases." - Grace, Graduate Student on the Upper West Side, 26 years old "Expect is such a dirty word, and not the good kind. But, that said, I think I'd be a little upset if it didn't happen at least once a week. That's usually not a problem for my boyfriend, who gives it to me about three times a week during foreplay." - Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old "It really depends if they guy I happen to be seeing is any good at it. If he is, I tend to want it more often, so really everytime we have sex. If he's no good I suppose I should want to help him practice, but it's not as much fun so I don't care as much." - Kendra, Marketing Manager in Soho, 24 years old "When I'm in a relationship, all the time - but I will say that I get a bit wary of a guy that wants to eat me out on the first sexual experience. I get the feeling he's got some strange fetish about it or something." - Nicci, Fashion Designer in Hell's Kitchen, 29 years old Do you want oral sex as foreplay or as an event in itself? "Well both, obviously, but it really helps warm things up for me, so it's definitely part of the foreplay routine." - Grace, Graduate Student on the Upper West Side, 26 years old "Both. I can't finish with regular sex, so oral is the only way I can get off. Don't tell my boyfriend, but I'd be just fine if we just had oral sex." - Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old "It's more a foreplay thing for us. Not surprisingly, he tends to put a little more effort into it when he knows we're going to have sex, so it just works better that way for me." - Nicci, Fashion Designer in Hell's Kitchen, 29 years old What are the most overrated techniques? "I know that everyone says to lick the alphabet, but for me it just doesn't cut it. I need a constant, slow rhythm to come and if his tongue is darting all over the place it just feels random and frustrating." - Kendra, Marketing Manager in Soho, 24 years old "I can't believe guys believe that humming actually works. Uh, just so you know, there's a reason they call vibrators power tools and there's no way your tongue can compete." - Grace, Graduate Student on the Upper West Side, 26 years old "It's not the technique most guys struggle with, it's that they need a map to find the clit. Once you get your tongue in the right spot, slow and steady flicks is all the information you really need to know." - Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old Afterwards, do you make a guy wash out his mouth before he kisses you? "I don't know if it's just me, but it's a really big turn-on to taste myself on my man's breath. With most guys they seem to expect that I won't like it, but for me, that's not true at all." - Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old "Well, my boyfriend certainly doesn't want me to kiss him after I give him a blowjob, so it's basically inferred that he won't kiss me after giving me head. I've had other relationships where it happened though, and it wasn't a big deal. I wouldn't mind it if he did." - Kendra, Marketing Manager in Soho, 24 years old "It's funny you ask because my girlfriends and I just talked about this – and I have to be honest, I don't really want to be kissed the second after he's done. I know some women enjoy it, and hey, I keep things very clean down there, but personally I don't like it." - Nicci, Fashion Designer in Hell's Kitchen, 29 years old "Oral sex is the ultimate foreplay before sex and since I like to be kissed during sex and don't want to interrupt things by waiting for him to brush his teeth, I don't really see a way around it." - Grace, Graduate Student on the Upper West Side, 26 years old Do you want your guy to finger you at the same time? "Honestly, it's too much for me to have both at the same time, and it seems to distract him. I don't need both to get off, so I'd rather he didn't." - Kendra, Marketing Manager in Soho, 24 years old "Sometimes, but usually not. It's too much stimulation and makes it harder to get off. I think my body gets confused." - Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old "If a guy can slowly go in and out and hits the right place while stroking me gently with his tongue it can be really satisfying. In my experience though, most guys seem to think of it like a video game or have seen too much porn to do it that way. I'm just not in the mood to deal with it very often." - Nicci, Fashion Designer in Hell's Kitchen, 29 years old <<< BACK